First Time Sex Guide for Women

Everyone has a fantasy about their first-time sexual experience. There are many myths and fears attached to the first time experience. Depending on the level of their knowledge, background, their partner’s knowledge, and other factors, it can be a pleasurable experience or sometimes a painful one. In some communities, it makes it difficult for girls to gain enough knowledge about sex as it is considered a taboo subject. Whatever information they tend to gather are through romantic novels or movies which at times are more of a fantasy than reality.

Let us talk about how you can turn your first sexual experience into a pleasurable activity rather than a traumatic one:

Preparation

Being mentally, physically, and emotionally prepared for your first-time sexual experience is very important. For women, sex is more than just a means to satisfy their carnal needs. They require a lot of emotional stability and reassurance from their partners to be able to enjoy the act, whether first time or every time.

Physically, a woman must be old and mature enough to be able to handle the usual pain associated with the first time sex. Having the right partner gives them the mental strength to set aside their fears and be able to enjoy the act. A lot of this depends on the partner who needs to be gentle, understanding and focused on mutual enjoyment, rather than one’s own. Creating a romantic mood with aromatic candles, dim light, comfortable bed, etc. can help relax both the partners.

Protection against STDs and unwanted pregnancy is also an important thing to keep in mind. Use condoms or birth control pills prescribed by your physician to avoid nasty surprises.

Painful?

For women, the first time sexual act can be a little painful but for some not. More than the actual pain, it is the hype around it that creates more fear in them. Thus, with that notion, while their heart and mind want to enjoy, their body refuses to comply and tenses up at the slightest of the touch, making it more difficult.

An understanding partner plays a very important role who would be patient enough first to ensure that you are comfortable and takes it slow. Ample foreplay will help you relax thereby making the first penetration less painful as one of the causes of pain can be vaginal dryness.

Usually, the pain is same as that of a finger prick. However, if you experience excruciating pain during the sexual act or pain that stays for days after your first intercourse, then it is important that you immediately visit your doctor and get a thorough checkup as there might be a more serious underlying reason for your pain.

Bleeding – what is normal?

The notion that every woman having sex for the first time must bleed is just a notion. Women bleed due to the rupture of the hymen. However, this rupturing can happen due to various other reasons, such as active participation in sports, cycling, swimming, and in some cases it may be absent congenitally as well. Slight bleeding, which is bright red in colour, is expected the first time, and if it is not present, then also it should not be a big concern. However, if you continue to have bleeding long after your first intercourse, then you must visit a doctor immediately as you have may have injuries on your vaginal wall as that could lead to infections. 

In some cases, if you have bleeding that is dark in colour, then this could be from the cervix or higher up in the uterus and must be examined immediately by a doctor.

For each person, their first time experience is unique to them. The success or the failure is the responsibility of both the partners. There should be nothing stopping you from turning your fantasies into reality and make the whole experience worth remembering.